The Heart Whisperer
WORKSHOPS AND LIFE COACHING
Philip Friberg, J.D., M.Ed.
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The Peace which passes Understanding: I have had many successes and achievements, but there remained an uneasiness.
Since learning The 3 Principles Understanding, I have arrived, sorta automatically, at the place in life where I have The Peace Which Passes Understanding over 50% of the time. I wake up happy. Most of the time I am at peace no matter what. If an outer situation presents a crisis, I will experience the full range of emotions that everyone does, however, the return to a state of peace and inner okay-ness occurs on its own quickly. I consider myself very lucky. Lucky to have learned about The 3 Principles Understanding a few years back. I never understood what The Peace Which Passes Understanding really meant or how a person would ever be in that state of mind. I don’t think anyone can until they experience it. I have a fairly constant Inner feeling ok without my outer world causing or interrupting it has arrived as my default way of being. It did not result from doing good works, intellectual knowledge, charismatic teachers, events, achievements, beliefs, tithing or affirmations. This inner calm has arrived by my letting negative thoughts and feeling simply move along. I don’t put any thought into them. It takes a while to learn this. Our culture looks for someone or something to blame. It is like going to through a forest and someone shoots an arrow into your back. The regular therapies that I experienced and what I was taught during my Master’s Degree education always had us looking into our past. “Why did that person do that”! Go back and re-feel it. Go back and diary about it. Go confront the person (in some cases). The problem with “all the going back into the past” is that the Infinite Power of our Conscious Thought recreates the pain and chemical imbalances in our body. I learned this from The 3 Principles Understanding several years back and use that knowledge for my personal healing.
Marriage: I have been married for 49 years. Our marriage is getting better and better. We both have deep love for each other. A change that has made everything better is that we both experience all the love we sought out from each other and others existing inside of us individually. That freedom gives each of us more to give. A lighter sense of everything.
History & Education: I grew up on a farm, did hod-carrying, worked loading trucks on a graveyard shift for a year, worked in factories, social work and insurance adjusting before becoming an attorney. I earned a Master’s Degree in Counseling and took some Graduate Art Therapy Classes.
Work Life: I practiced law for 35 years and did counseling for 20 years on a part-time basis while practicing law. As an attorney and therapist, I worked with people in all kinds of crisis. I saw that many of them were created by the client’s state of mind. People would continually repeat the same negative behaviors and situations. The human condition is tough on many people.
Seeking Internal Peace of Mind, Lack of Fear and Anxiety: Since childhood I have sought out happiness. Initially I worked hard to achieve things, thinking that the outside world would bring me a sustained level of happiness. A college degree, the right spouse, the right income, the right social groups, the right religion, the right giving (money and time). I have read many books, engaged in Jungian Analysis for many years, attended many workshops. I have been constantly seeking to find an inner peace that I never found in religion or Jungian Analysis. I never gave up hope.
The 3 Principles Understanding: A New Framework and Paradigm: Feelings and thoughts of regret no longer hold any energy over me. Of course, I wish that many things had been different or had not occurred. Life did not “go according to my plan”. With The 3 Principles Understanding you learn that your thoughts, feelings and past are not who you are. You don’t have to analysis, defend, suppress or even try not to have them. Just let them flow through. You can let them pass. Feelings and thoughts come up. We don’t have to obey them. We learn to let them pass through like clouds seen against a clear blue sky.
We never know what has been running our lives until “the hold” that it had on us is gone.
I thought that I knew about all the roadblocks and emotional pains that I had received. That has not been the case with me and many others who I have met. I learned about The 3 Principles Understanding in my 70’s so I have had a lot of years of tamping down memories and pain. It seems that things don’t come up until we can handle them. Even the ardent and focused student of The 3 Principles Understanding may find it takes more time than they wish.
The Heart Whisperer: Why the name “The Heart Whisperer”? A soft, information teaching and non-judgmental listening enhances a client’s life more than a direct or challenging approach. Confrontation and “should” create huge walls of defense and closes the learner’s mind and heart. I have worked with various bosses who were unfeeling ruled by put-downs, have been through two Army boot-camps with very mean sergeants, attended various workshops and therapies where a direct confrontation was “the method”. Seeking to make you break down was the goal of some.
Have you noticed that a lot of language used in Podcasts and Workshop Advertisements relate to “forcing things” and “making things happen”. Words that express an emotional setting of getting pushed off the edge of comfort and safety: We are going “to take a deep dive” into things, we are going “to break things apart”, we are going to see “how far down the rabbit hole you want to go”, come “for a total immersion experience”, we are going to “test your limits” and “push you to the edge”, “take you back into the painful experience”. “Relive your pain” so you can learn to be strong. And another one done under the guise of being a good religious person: “Being told to confess your sins”. Most of those bring on pain and shame.
My experience of all of those has been resistance and closing off emotionally. Not feeling safe. People do wondrously better if they feel safe and don’t have to share if they don’t wish to. Attending a workshop or being coached by me, you will experience me as a compassionate listener. Confessing is not part of it. The past is best left behind and focus on the present is the best.
Who has the answers for your life: You do!
As an attorney I had to “know all the answers” for clients.
As a therapist under the normal schools of therapy, the therapist is supposed to give answers and recommendations. A therapist knows best.
With The 3 Principles Understanding the client is the one who knows what is best for themselves. Of course, there would be a suggestion by a Coach to not abuse drugs, yourself or others. But questions like “should I get a divorce, quit my job, move to another town, go back to school” …. are all within your personal ability to get Clarity and Wisdom from inside of you.
Enjoyment of being a 3 Principles Practitioner: Many of the practitioners of The 3 Principles Understanding never intend to retire. We have fun during our sessions and workshops. We grow with each client interaction. We are not superior to any client or any other person. We don’t have the answer to people’s situations or even the solution to any of their problems. Every person has an equal connection to the highest wisdom and knowledge within themself. We don’t get wore out or emotionally drained because we know every person as someone who has automatic inner resilience. We do not “believe” that. We “know” it because we have experienced it and have seen many others come to that personal knowledge. We see people don’t need to be fixed or cured. People simply need to become aware of that perfect place or state of mind that is within them and always has been. It is a place where their mental health and resilience have never been touched. A place where people feel total love and acceptance automatically. A place wherein lies high wisdom and clarity for what is the best for them.
What we do for people is to gently keep them focused on using their awareness and not get lost into victim thinking. That “place” grows as people drop focusing on the past. The infinite love that is who they really are sorta melts the pain they have held onto. The healing takes place on its own.
I enjoy helping people discover and know their riches them and live with an inner satisfaction of being who they are and the life they are living. My wish for everyone is for them to learn they have the power and ability to create a happy life, no matter what has occurred in their life in the past or what situation they are presently in.
In invite everyone to teach and pass along whatever I teach. There is no Level 1, Level 2, Level 3, Level 4, apprenticeship or continuing education required to pass along what has worked for you. People won’t learn and heal from intellectual knowledge or from beliefs. They will learn and heal from “What we have experienced and personally know to be true”. There are many free resources from long-time 3 Principles Practitioners on the web.
The 3 Principles have been operating since the time you were born and since the time the first human being appeared. They are not something that a person uses or applies. They are fixed Principles that provide an explanation of how both our intentional thoughts and our unintentional thoughts create our experience of life.